Most people live their life based on FEAR.
And If there’s one thing I learned in the 31 years of my short life on Earth, and most recently during these last 3 years: fear can really have us make poor choices !
Let me explain and develop my opinion by giving you some of my own personal experience: 3 years ago, I got ripped-off by a lawyer. I believed him, trusted him and I was scared that bad things would happen if I didn’t. Then, almost at the same time and as I was very vulnerable (and of course, financially insecure), I entered a toxic environment where I was being brainwashed and morally abused by a ‘guru’ (or should I say a definite asshole). 1 year after that, on my quest for health recovery (post traumatic stress any one ???) ; I was manipulated by a health practitioner (even bigger of an ass… or shall we say sociopath !!!).
Well, If that wasn’t a sign of poor decision making based on poor self-confidence and FEAR… ???!!!
The funny thing? I thought I knew better than that ! After all, I was a strong independent woman…
But hey! that’s the journey: We all are on this planet to learn, grow and (re)connect… And make sure not to forget who we are and to take care of ourselves.
And if we do forget sometimes, the Universe always makes sure to shake us with some good life changing experiences … because that TL (=tender loving) Care for ourselves is where it all needs to start to build the confidence necessary to move onto the next steps in this crazy life…
Yes, sure, what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger! And yes, clearly this could happen to anyone …
Those difficulties – or ‘bumps on the road ‘ tought me a lot and most importantly, I learnt the 3 following essential things: 1/ always listen to my GUT feeling ! As Tracey McMillan once said; ‘No red flag is better than in your own gut.’ if it doesn’t talk; it screams ! honour it and listen to it!! 2/ believe that the Universe has got some really good things coming your way… TRUST that !!! 3/ with number 1 and 2 in mind: LET GO of the fear…
The fear of failure, of judgment, of suffering, of change (ooh! that uncontrollable change!)… whatever the reason; fear is always detrimental. LET GO of it. As buddhists say: there is only one thing constant in life; change. So if you are scared of it, you will spend your life in fear!!!
Not only does Fear stop you from doing and experimenting things, going places, meeting people, learning and growing… Down the track, Letting go of fear allows you to live your life happily and freely; and allows you to CONNECT. *(with yourself and others). In confidence.
My last piece of advice (to you and myself): stay connected with your true self so to connect with others … and be aware that we are all inter-connected… when everyone understands that, the world will be a much better world. And racism will vanish ❤
Thank you for reading this article,
Please watch Diane Von Furstenberg talking about fear on Tedx VeniceBeach, ‘Design Your Life’
With Love x